Image : http://www.flickr.com
Unexpected changes in life. Transitions expected. Sleepless nights. What do these three things have in common? The ability of one of the most memorable questions in the library of human introspection cause:
"What the hell will the rest of my life?"
While I can not pretend to answer this question for someone other than me, can I be sure this item a few basic tips on how to set that to their future as bright astheir class valedictorian said it would be.
Take time to create a map
Too often, when faced with the decision with a great (or not so important) life, we tend to both the first decent choice arises, or we can choose the circumstances for us by default - drop the decision until the inexorable current of life sweeps us past the tipping point. As you can imagine, this is not the best way to get what you want out of life. ButOpportunities we may face in life are so wildly divergent, or very similar to that which is difficult to know to take that turn. Would not it be nice if we have a sort of road map to know that help us to follow and which paths should go?
Here are five questions that everyone should ask himself or herself or before starting any new location. The answers to these questions should be used to guide decisions and actions - if the choiceis simply to compare the options with your stated desires and choose the option that you are closer to (or at least moves the least distance) brings your destination - the stated objectives and desires.
1. What does success mean to me?
Be very specific. "I want to be rich," is not the answer - what does "rich" really means? Think of a number? And if so, why? Or is the term "rich" a substitute for certain freedoms andModi which is seen as coming only with money - and by limiting them only money will not be accessible by any other alternative way?
Some specific options for the "I want to be rich," according to the individual would be: "I'd like to meet enough net income to my financial responsibility without effort, have time and money for the trip" or "I want to be able to afford great style jet-set life in New York City "or "I want to spend four days a week at home with my children," etc.
You should try at least three answers to the question of what success really means to you personally, with one reflecting a different aspect of what you feel makes a truly successful -. And keep the money problem, only a statement, after all Sun something as personal development, spiritual significance and other important needs and values is not solved, purchased or even influenced byMoney
One of the biggest obstacles to success, is that most of us have never explored aware of what it means for us, apart from some vague and nebulous idea of fame, fortune or other worldly success. Know what success really means to you is - what you hope or imagine that the general definition of success would actually provide them and how to do these things seem to be physically in your life - you can accurately evaluate your choice.
2. What are mynon-negotiable demands?
List all the things you imagine how essential parameters of a successful life and family pleasing -., travel, no debt, good working environment, social status, contributions to society, spiritual involvement, public acceptance, love, excitement, comfort or all of these and all the others might think they are legitimate needs that when not met create an environment of stress, want and disempowerment in your life. Knowing what you not willing to do without makes the relative values of policy options.
3. What are my limits are not negotiable?
List all the things you want, not in your life. If the idea of working in an office environment hierarchical hurts, put that down. If you can not bear the thought of living in a cold climate, which add to the list. If being made fun of making your physical condition or other attributes> Life uninhabitable to note that too. With the knowledge that you do not tolerate many decisions to make it much easier. It also lets you set rules and guidelines of who and what you invite into your life and the rules of conduct and will not be tolerated.
4. What are my core values?
Spending to search for the soul to get some time with a list of core values, creating a life around you that you are the personwants to be, and you can live life as life. You are the kind of honesty, clean living / green and a deep love of nature above all other values? Or are you more of a "comfort of home, family and fun for one person? Charity you value in allowing others to find their way alone, or is it vice versa? Know what you are really an essential part of good decision-making process.
5. What I want to remember?
WhatLegacy is to go left when you pass? What do you mean that people say about your life and the person you like? What do you want to be known for? What do you want your obituary to say about you? Know where you want to make the right choice at the end of the road, and track your progress, infinitely easier.
Key is to note that
There are three important points to consider when faced with the change of lifeDecisions.
1. Look before you leap.
In life as in commercial marketing, "Buy now before this opportunity is gone!" It is almost always code-speak for "buy now, before the time of having to read the fine print." It 's true that from time to time, real, honest to goodness surprisingly, once, offers-in-a-life does not come. But if you put down a base of well-considered choices and focus on clear ideas before this happens, you have the presence of mind anddetermination to know when to jump and go, and more able to discern the difference between a missed opportunity and close.
A second life is no longer a "chance for a person" event.
The times are a'changing and surely one of the best things come from this change is that now we understand that people change and also that this is not only normal but expected. The career or life that you are perfectprobably do not fit in 20 middle-aged no more than the same wardrobe or lifestyle would. Sometimes this is only the result of the normal process of personal development to go through all that, as mature age, and sometimes it is suddenly in response to the reality-shifting events and life-changing transitions living through a traumatic event such as losing a work or marry.
However, the change comes, ready to swim with the current. Do not worry"All the time I spent in grad school," or what to say to your friends and family. In the first case, there is no such thing as "sunk costs" in life - almost 90% of any training or experience in life is 100% applicable to new situations and new markets. In sports they call it "cross training" and an athlete does not consider his education complete without looking at the second instance, well, if you love them want you to be happy and if you do not love, thenWho cares what they think? In addition, there are those who must live their lives for this - you are.
Also in this area is the admonition not to buy trade a good life for some nebulous "better tomorrow", as the cost of your life as a zombie Ing a career you hate for the promise of a pension in retirement. Too often, these "tomorrow" if they ever do come, are no better than 'now' is wasted. And as often as not the stress of an unhappy lifeThe life permanently cripples or even kills people, physically or otherwise, even before they learn their imagined golden "tomorrow."
3. The attempt to "find your" real purpose is a waste of life.
We have all said here on this earth for many reasons - some are large, small, and most of them will never understand or even realize that even after we have seen a distant memory. Too much time your prophesy"True purpose" in the life of tea leaves to remove your attention and energy to create the kind of life that really support the achievement of those goals in the first place.
A better alternative so far is to create what I call a "Groundhog Day-Proof Life." The Bill Murray movie in which his character is based, to live the values on the same day over and over again, this concept is to create a life that your mirrors, it offers the opportunity toChallenge yourself and meet and just nice enough, so if by some strange cosmic Fluke your life was caught on a given day, it would be tragic, not a good thing and when. Living this kind of life virtually guarantees that you, who and where you need to get to be any purpose would be to meet here, at the same time, there is a rewarding "rest of your life in wonderful andProcess.
Summary
Making the most out of life is not life "right." The point is to live well. Learning to control your life consciously in the direction you want to wear, then given the choice to live according to their values and desires and ensure that most of the day limited ensures that when the time of your life, check to pass before the eyes, a show definitely worth itThe ticket price.
0 comments:
Post a Comment