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Life is good at teaching us lessons - they keep you going when things become easy.
As many of you, I called my mother in May to wish her a happy Mother's Day. She said she had a cold that would not just go away. She had finally been to the doctor about it and ran some tests. Four days later we found out he had cancer of the liver. My mother died in two weeks.
I still can not believe it really is gone - it happened so fast. But that's the way life issometimes, and sometimes it takes to drive a big shock for a few hours to get home. Think about your life, as I with some of the lessons I will learn.
Wait no life. My mother was the most challenging I have ever known. He put in at least 50 hours per week and more every Saturday and worked on some Sundays. She was an accountant and a perfectionist. Each of them, work began this month. There was always working out more. His boss was a good guy - he used toencourage them not to work hard, but my mother was type A, which would have done better. Sound familiar?
He was 65 when he died. Remember that retirement in the big sky - it would make all travel, all the free time finally, after years of work have been exhausted at rest. You have to live now - make the trip this year - to stop and enjoy life now - why not always.
Know what brings joy. My mother had to work hard and asThe victims of their own needs for others. He always put himself second. I do not think she has found joy - I thought that was kind of selfish pleasure. It 'been too restrictive as they themselves held. You know what brings you joy?
Perhaps that is doing things for others, but must be without the prospect of a return, just for the sheer joy of giving. If you have expectations, you have links for your gifts. And your happiness depends on the reaction of the recipient.What brings me joy is changing with each new adventure that I have. Firestar me great joy. Nature brings me joy. My wonderful friends bring me joy. Spray on my yogurt fills me with joy! What brings you joy? They bask in it? He throws his head back and laughs, throwing her arms and embrace life - will be over soon too.
Allowing people to approach you. My mother was very independent and autonomous. She did not want any of the charges. At his funeral many of his friends have told ushow they do the things I tried - they go to doctor visits, etc. and would never disappoint them. This was a chance for them to approach her, and they were so sad that they do not do more. Their passing made me realize that I can be very similar to them and the people at a distance. I need to work hard to change that.
There are things that you in your parents do? We tend to their designs without even thinking about it again. It is not too lateChange - but do it now. You will not be grieved for all those people at your funeral the missed opportunity to be close to you.
It is possible that someone you love. My parents divorced when I was in my youth. I remember all the hundreds of ways my mother tried to hang on my father. It 'was an impossible task - we all have at one time or another attempt in our lives. We believe that if we just give more, better, work harder - that special person you love. Unfortunately, it issimply does not. You simply can not make another person love, you are loyal, or staying married. All you can do is your best and if you choose, you must let go. You must choose for yourself and your life so great and wonderful as can be. Twenty years after the divorce, my mother was still bitter. I would like to have them all, the pain may go. It gave her joy.
If you hire someone from your past that you have pain? Ifnot want to be with you - let her go! You deserve someone who wants to be with you who you are - not for pity or guilt, or because it was sacrificed in order to make them happy. The past is the past - take your power and your joy and live in the present. Take care of your health - at the moment. Americans work more hours than any other nation - we have now surpassed the Japanese. Take less vacation and we are constantly checked voice mail and e-mail. We never stop. My motherliterally working himself to death - is never sick a day and pushed to the limit for over 40 years. Nobody can take that in the long term. Professional athletes have an off-season, they know their body needs time to recover. For most of us, is never out of season - the constant stress is a way of life.
You have to change that, even now. Take a vacation and to fully resolve the office. The company will not collapse without you. And you will bemore productive when you return. You must create a regular exercise into your schedule. Too busy? Or too lazy? 20-minute walk every day can make a big difference in the quality of your life -. Your health is the foundation for everything you have and '?
I learned that life, many other lessons from my mom and her death. Sometimes we only learn the knowledge of pain. is some pain in your life when you can not learn? If you findlessons, helping easily your suffering. Thank you for taking the time to write these lessons with me.
